The secular funeral
We mourn a loved one and publicly take our leave of them. In this way we express our care towards them once again. We want to say goodbye with love and respect. When the person is no longer among us, we should let his dignity and our love for him/her nevertheless continue. At the same time the deceased person may already have made arrangements for their funeral. After all, the ceremony can also be their last self-determined act. So we can meet the person again indirectly through their will and influence at their funeral. The rite is not predetermined but coordinated with the wishes of both the deceased and the surviving relatives.
All of this can be a secular event: the dignity of the deceased, his will and wishes join with the love of his relatives and friends in his funeral ceremony. No putting off but, rather, comfort. Death is accepted but at the same time confidence is created for your own life from the grief and memories. Of course a secular ceremony can include Biblical elements; we can easily build that possibility into our funeral talk, if you wish.